Tips for Helping Students Develop Emotional Intelligence at School

By Dotun Ola

More and more professionals are recognizing the importance of developing emotional intelligence at school. Education should be concerned with building the basic pillars for the emotional development of children.

When we think of emotional intelligence, we must go back to early ages, when social and individual psychological development is at its peak.

And skills such as assertiveness, empathy, and motivation begin to develop at an early age, and school is the ideal place for children to begin laying the foundations for their social, emotional, and personal education.

Tips for Developing Emotional Intelligence at School

Motivation, self-regulation, self-awareness, empathy, and social skills; these factors constitute the main skills of emotional intelligence and will be the points on which we will emphasize.

The first thing to keep in mind is that the figure of authority in class (the teacher) must be a reflection of what you want to convey to the students and must lead by example, constituting a source of learning in itself.

  • Emotional Intelligence in School

When it comes to working on emotional intelligence at school, these are some learning tools that will serve the student throughout their training process, giving them confidence in themselves, their abilities, and values.

A classroom in which everyone can be aware of their strengths and weaknesses, become aware of reality, and be able to manage their emotions at the same time, will reinforce the character and self-esteem of children in a very positive way.

In this sense, positive reinforcement has a capital influence, in several ways, going from extrinsic motivation to an intrinsic one, thus developing self-esteem and character.

A cordial, safe, and affectionate attitude from the teacher, an adequate evaluation and reward system, both for the positive and negative aspects, and focused on the short term and small details, make the student aware of their evolution and can extrapolate these situations of overcoming at school to their daily life.

  • Empathy and Social Skills

One of the most pressing problems of our education, and therefore of society, is the insistence on educating in the material and ignoring or forgetting the personal, causing deficiencies to appear in adult life, both emotional and development management capacity.

The solution involves emotional education from childhood and the practice of social behaviors and skills, both external and internal, in such a way that both knowledge and skills, as well as values, are stimulated.

That is why we are going to take into account two essential aspects, the identification and expression of emotions, and group cohesion and communication skills.

  • From Self-knowledge to Relationships

Children who can identify how they feel and express it, also develop self-awareness, which allows them to bring their attention to what is happening inside them and how it happens.

In turn, they will be able to perceive emotions and feelings in others, which will allow them to build a respectful social life with others and their feelings, which we call empathy.

The development of empathy will allow a cohesive group to exist in the classroom, in which respect and cordiality stand out.

One of the aspects to take into account is personal communication. Teachers must take into account what the development of communication skills entails, both for themselves and the students.

When we speak to a group we are testing our self-esteem and personal management. If we find ourselves in the situation of having to speak in public, we must make use of our self-control and discipline, to ensure that the message reaches others in an orderly manner, with both body and dialectical language, and making, in addition, use of assertiveness and social skills, positive values ​​for optimal development.

That is why innovative educators emphasize the creation of debates and a democratic and respectful classroom environment in which everyone can have their place and ability to express themselves and interact.

Finally, about teachers, it is important to remember the practice of continuous feedback between the group and the teacher, which brings to light hidden problems that could be harmful.

Detecting problems or deficiencies in children and exposing them will provide the optimal context to motivate them and make them more aware of their learning, thus having more control over it.

In Conclusion 

These are some strategies to develop emotional intelligence at school, but we must not forget that it must be completed with the education we give children at home.